What Was He Thinking?

I know I look the same as I did 30 years ago

I've known my husband for 30 years now and he's always had a mustache and beard with full sideburns. Even while married to his first wife, I've seen pictures of the same facial hair. Although greyer now, it suits him. He's got this tiny chin and now a little double-chin woggle as he's aged. Some people need facial hair.

Occasionally he would tease daughter and I about shaving off his beard, and always heard a resounding NO from us. About 6 months ago, he did shave off the sideburns making his beard more of a Van Dyke style. It looks OK, daughter didn't even notice.

But last weekend he announced to me that he was taking his beard off. I didn't say anything like I have in the past. Maybe I didn't really think he would do it. But 5 minutes later he comes out of the bathroom. I hated it, daughter screamed and he got mad at us.

After he yelled at us for hating it, he admitted he hated it too. Really? You went through all that just to confirm that you would hate your face without a beard? You could have just asked me.

I agree that it's his body and he can do with what he wants with it and blah blah blah. I don't like him telling me how I should cut my hair. My hair used to be very long and as we know most men like long hair on their women. Not sexist or anything. But as I got older and started cutting my hair he didn't like it. When I'd say that I was going for a trim, he'd freak out and say, "You're getting it CUT!!!!" Oh the drama.

My hair is straight and thick, and for about 20 years I've had basically the same short cut. It works for me, it's easy, I like it, and it looks good on me. So I know what looks good and wouldn't go do something stupid to contradict that.

He said he thought it would make him look younger, by cutting off all the grey. People already don't think he's as old as he is, so what was the point? If he had wanted a tattoo or a piercing I wouldn't have cared. But when you know something would not look good on someone, and you have told them repeatedly, and then they still do it? It makes me just want to pull my short hair out!

Since the scalping, he has not shaved and is growing it back. Lesson learned I hope.