More On Change
I'm not sure how every other family is managing but she doesn't even want to deal with the college stuff. I can't say that I'm ready either but as a parent, I don't have a choice. If I don't push, it won't get done.
She's always been self motivated but not in this area. They have a special class that they do a lot of college prep work in, but I don't really know the progress because she doesn't talk about it much. There is a plethera of help in the Career Center at school, but do kids really have the ambition without parents prodding to go get help and information? I seriously doubt it.
Recently she took a personality profile quiz at Collegeboard.org and I admit some of the questions were stupid. But by the time she was done they had her pegged pretty good. She is classified as a ISFZ (Introverting-Sensing-Feeling-Organizing) and only 6% of responders fit the same profile. I wish I could copy and paste the entire profile but it would mean nothing to you. But if you knew her, you would agree wholeheartedly.
We haven't taken the next step to see what kind of careers fit this type of persona. Baby steps are what we're doing here because every time we try to work on it, she ends up in tears. But I'm worried that since she doesn't fit the 'norm' of personality, it will be difficult for her to find what wants to do. Her list of things she doesn't want to do is VERY long. I ask her what her friends are planning to take in college or even what college they want to go to. Her reply is "We don't talk about that kind of thing, they would think I was stupid if I asked them that."
What bothers me is that I don't think she realizes her true strengths and abilities. I see so much potential in her; more than I ever had. And more than likely she will be spending the first two years at a community college which means she will live at home; so at least half of her experience will be in a comfort zone.
It seems that most parents worry about their kids' grades, drinking, drugs, and objectionable friends. I have none of those worries and I am thankful. What I worry about is that she will not live up to her full potential because of her ISFZness and miss out on being something great.